An abused man is often overwhelmed by fear, a fear of: further violence, his safety and the safety of their children

Victims often believe that they are at fault and that by changing their behaviour the abuse will stop.

He may experience a conflict of emotions. He may love his partner, but hate the violence and abuse. He may live in hope that his abuser’s ‘good side’ will reappear.

He may be dependent upon his partner, emotionally and financially.

He may experience feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment.

He may feel resigned and hopeless and find it hard to make decisions about his future